About Us

We are a group of practicing medical and counseling professionals who would love to offer you online support. We work with different organisations across India,
but we share a common purpose and belief. In some aspect or other we are already engaged in providing such support in individual capacities.

With the purpose of bringing professional counseling and help to a larger section of people we are synchronizing our efforts and pooling our resources and knowledge. Some of the current members are :

Mr. KV Ganpathy ,CEO - JASCAP is also a volunteer counselor at Department of Palliative medicine,Tata memorial hospital, Parel, Mumbai

Ms. Nisha Krishnadas ,Coordinator, Educational Programs, IAPC ( M.A-Mass Communication and Journalism), was National Information Officer in Palliative Care India (2008-2014)

Dr. Anil Paleri , Director, Institute of Palliative Medicine, WHO collaborating center for Education and Training, Calicut

Dr. Savita Butola ,Palliative care specialist,a practicing MBBS professional (PGDMCH, PGDHHA & MSc in Palliative Medicine (Cardiff, UK))

Information you can use.

Losing a loved one is the most difficult experience a human being can go through. Sometimes it can be difficult to just go through the day.
With changing times, the traditional family and community support systems have decreased and it can be extremely lonely.

You don't have to bear it on your own. We believe following information will help you understand your own or other's grief better.

What is Grief?

Grief is a normal reaction to death (bereavement) or other major loss. Experience of grief varies from person to person. Its manifestations include emotional, physical, cognitive, and behavioral factors. But normally people can function well and enjoy life after a specific period. For a close personal bereavement, grief is likely to continue for a long time and recur.

Emotional manifestations in normal grief: A sense of shock and numbness is the initial emotional response to bereavement. Sadness is the most common manifestation and feelings of anger and guilt are also seen. But inconsolable sadness leading to a devastating state similar to depression is not common in normal grief.

Normal physical manifestations include “hollowness” in the stomach, tightness in the chest or throat, over sensitivity to noise, feeling shortness of breath, weakness of muscles, lack of energy, dry mouth and a sense of depersonalization.

Cognitive manifestations: Disbelief, unreality, and denial may be present. Pre-occupying with thoughts of the deceased and a feeling of the presence of the deceased is also common.

Behavioral manifestations : Lose of appetite, sleep disturbance; dreams about the deceased are common. Social withdrawal, avoiding or keeping objects that reminds the deceased, avoid or visit places that reminds the deceased, over involvement in activities, sudden changes in life style are other manifestations.

Abnormal Grief

The tipping point between normal grief to something more concerning is a little blurred. In a normal case the person who is grieving is expected to adapt to their change of circumstances and lead a normal life. Sometimes emotional or behavioral disturbances are so disproportionately strong leading to adjustment disorder. In this case an individual’s ability to resume normal activities and responsibilities is continually disrupted. Anguish is a common symptom as is despondency, hopelessness, agitation, trembling and physical complaints. At this stage support is very important in helping the person to adjust to their loss. Medicines or therapies may be prescribed for anxiety and depression.

Is grief a normal reaction?

Yes, it is. It is a normal human response to a significant loss or response to an unwelcome event. All human beings experience grief in their life and the experience of grief and its intensity vary depending on several factors like nature of the person, nature of relationship, support system available for the grieving, age of the grieving person, etc. Grief is an indirect way of saying that we miss a person or a relationship we value and we are struggling to adjust with that “absence” we feel in our life. Considering grief as a normal reaction does not intend to minimize its difficulty.

How can I help a grieving person?

Be with the person. Listen. Encourage the person to talk, to express feelings, especially about the deceased

Do children experience grief?

Of course. Children experience emotions and other reactions which are not dissimilar to those experienced by adults. Denial, guilt, anger, anxiety, and physical complaints are common reactions during this period. The understanding about death and mode of grief vary depending on the age of the child.

How long will ‘it’ (grief)go on?

There is no simple and clear answer for this. As grief is a highly individual experience, duration and intensity vary in each case.

‘I think I can’t live a normal life any more’?

People always feel like this. But it is not true. It is true that their life will be different. But the grieving person will cope with the situation and accept the truth and eventually lead a normal life.

How do I understand I need help from an expert?

Sharing your feelings with those who have also experienced grief and an understanding of what people have commonly undergone when grieving can be a helpful. Continued fears, anxiety, thoughts of self-harm, prolonged intense emotion or obsession thought or behavior that make functioning difficult require professional help.

Do you think that ‘not to cry’ or ‘pretending to put a brave face’ can help overcome grief?

Not at all. It is sad to compel a grieving person to control tears and ask to carry on as nothing has happened. Everybody has go through it to reach the other side. A person is able to accept the loss after a certain period and start to live normally again.

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